Questions For Astro Frogg
I used to be a senior Yogi. I am no longer involved with anything. I’ve started answering questions. I removed all identifies. Anyway, enjoy. Hopefully someone will find these useful. I am dyslexic….
Question 1
Sometimes I feel jealous of people when deep down I know I have 100% no reason to…. It’s not a matter of trust, but a lack of self esteem. I feel like she doesn’t want to be with me, when she has proven the opposite. What do you think?
All the best — Z
Answer:
Human’s have both good and bad characteristics. We are both evil and good. Just because someone becomes vegetarian or vegan, doesn’t mean they are no longer an omnivore. If a scientist identified a person, scientifically, he would say that animal is an omnivore, not a vegan. However, maybe someone else would say, ‘that person is a vegan’. Identity is subjective. This also includes actions. Performing good actions is a subjective thing. So are bad actions. Hitler thought he was doing good. It’s a relativistic statement. From your question, you think relativistic to you (as in your material makeup including your mind), that jealousy is bad.
Everyone gets jealous. It is apart of being human. Performing actions regarded as good comes as a result of being aware of those actions and judging them relativistic to you as good. If you are aware that an action is bad, like you appear to be, then you can stop yourself from performing the action naturally by it’s awareness. Good and bad may not exist, however, actions that make your life subjectively better or worse do appear real as you are attached to them. If you can’t detach from them (some you probably can’t unless dead), then you have to accept the turbulence of your mind and learn to not get too attached to it. No one is jealous all the time. The feeling will pass, you will get used to it and the intensity will decrease.
Human emotions are a very lowly form of being. They intoxicate us, and make us do very bad and very good things (sic). Gradually, you will learn to be less attached to them. They will still be there, but hold less power. If you fear you will loose her, forget about it. She could be run over by a bus in the morning. If her actions prove the opposite, treasure her in the moment, if that’s what you feel you want. You can be happy yourself, but if you feel she adds to your quality of life, and you to hers go for it. I am getting married. It’s an attachment, but one I hope I have chosen with awareness. Be aware that a lifetime relationship will eventually lead to suffering. One of you will outlive the other. One could get horribly sick. I feel my wife is worth the pain. That makes my attachment to her very strong, and the suffering I invite on myself will be intense.
To want is human. It causes us to attach and it is the root cause of our suffering. You can choose how you suffer though. There is no need to suffer needlessly without awareness. Feel jealous but don’t be jealous. Treasure your relationship if that is what you choose, and accept that you cannot control the environment you are in, or your partner. Whatever action you take in life, try to observe your physical, emotional, and intellectual states in that order.
To form an attachment is to invite pain and suffering. You will have pain enough without jealousy!
